J is for Just Joking

Just Joking. One of my most despised phrases.

You’re so ugly … just joking. You’re too fat … just joking. You’re a great singer … just joking. You’re so stupid … just joking.

I hate that this simple phrase seems to give people the freedom to say whatever the heck they want. Even if it hurts the other person to their very core, somehow it’s justified because your ignorance was wiped clean with a “just joking”.

Why do people feel the need to point out someone’s biggest fault or weakness? Why do we have to make someone else feel worse about themselves in order to make ourselves feel better? If your self-esteem is so low that belittling someone else makes you happy, change that. Read a self-esteem book, go to counselling, or just choose better.

Please do me a favour. If you have the urge to say something and follow it up with a “Just Joking”, don’t. Or if you choose to invoke just joking’s cousins, “No offense” and “I don’t mean to be rude”, stop. If you’re brave enough to make a defamatory statement, suck it up and take what’s coming right back at you.

These simple phrases don’t give you the right to push someone else down. And frankly, if you insist on using them, you’re the weak one.

 

This post is Day 12 of the Summer Blog Challenge – 31 posts in 31 Days

Please visit my fellow challenge bloggers and read their stories.

Meaghan at Magz D Life
Tam at Tam I Am 
Liam at In The Now
 Jessica at2plus2X2

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3 thoughts on “J is for Just Joking

  1. prithviinspire August 12, 2012 at 10:46 pm Reply

    This post is really nice.

  2. Narissa August 12, 2012 at 11:12 pm Reply

    I have learnt that people who say they are “just joking” – are really not. There is always some truth in what you say – so it’s best to not say anything.

  3. […] April doesn’t think you’re very funny. […]

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