Be encouraged Fatty. Bah.

I was just tagged in another one of those, supposed to be inspirational and kind posts written by a skinny person, giving me permission to be okay with being fat.

It’s not too different from the post written by the person working out in the gym that says, I see you and all your fatness working out, and you’re so awesome. Keep it up.

Which is quite similar to the posts telling me not to let my weight get me down, and that I’ve got such a pretty face that my size doesn’t really matter. (I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve been told this one).

Sigh. I hate those posts. I hate those comments. And this is why.

They’re stupid and they shouldn’t need to even be written.

People’s sizes and/or appearance shouldn’t be the fodder for your next “make yourself feel better” post.

Sure, I suppose the thought behind them is to be one of encouragement and acceptance, but that’s not what they’re saying at all. They’re saying … I see you as a fat person, first and foremost. The FIRST thing you saw when you looked at your subject matter was that they were Fat. And that ONE FACTOR alone inspired you to write a whole commentary about them. That is what makes me mad and sad and annoyed. Fat isn’t all that I am.

Yes, you spotted me in a gym, but I’m pretty sure there are lots of other people there too. Do you make comments about the super skinny girl who can do nothing but ride bikes because she doesn’t have a lot of muscle mass. Do you feel inspired to write about the guy that is “normal” sized but just came to the gym for the first time in his life? Probably not because frankly, their “stories” aren’t as obvious and easy to pick out.

Why can’t you just look around the room and think, Wow, there’s a lot of people here today working on getting healthy and then go about your own workout without waxing poetic?

I don’t go to the hairdresser and comment about the lady with the horribly whacked out hair with more grey roots than blonde flowing locks. I’m not all “I see you with the sad and desperate hair coming to the salon with it all hidden in a ball cap. It’s okay, I understand. I’m happy that you’re stepping up to fix that mess”.

I don’t go for a pedicure and then come home and write a post about the lady with the horrible cracked heels, and hairy toes. “I see you and your slovenly feet, all tired and dirty and forlorn. I know how embarrassed you must’ve been to leave your house this morning to come here. But thank-you for being brave enough to come”.

Yes, those things are stupid, but there’s no difference.

Look at me as a person, not as a shape or a colour, but as a person. If, by some miracle I ever get up and go to the gym, don’t look at me as the fat chick. Look at me as one of your peers that is taking the same steps as you.

Period.

 crime

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5 thoughts on “Be encouraged Fatty. Bah.

  1. Lynn Connelly August 10, 2014 at 5:47 pm Reply

    Haha! This is timely, since my friend has entered a contest to have surgery. She is fat, and she’s fat because she has been self-medicating while trying to deal with emotional issues. Although she has dealt with the issues the fat remains.She has tried every diet, but it’s just not that easy, as all of us who are fatties know. I have lost 100’s of pounds over the years, only to regain it. I don’t know what works, but I don’t think of myself as the “fat chick” even when it’s obvious that others do. I am me, and that’s enough – for now!

  2. Natasha August 10, 2014 at 9:49 pm Reply

    I am sure one of the ladies at my nail place wrote a whole post about the time I asked her to wax my hobbit feet toes durin my pedicure!

  3. Brittany August 11, 2014 at 9:43 pm Reply

    Reblogged this on beautifulbrittany.

  4. Murphy Must Have Had Kids August 12, 2014 at 10:25 pm Reply

    Well said!

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