Category Archives: Mom Stuff

What Mother’s Day Means to Me.

Mothers Day. 

It rolls around every year with super cute memes’, the best handmade cards and the most ridiculous but epic school art class presents. It’s the day that our little angels actually try and act like angels while bringing us breakfast in bed and offering, but not always doing, to clean the kitchen.

Overall, it’s a sweet day filled with hugs, kisses and thank-you’s. It’s a good day.

For me, and the many other Moms to Many like me, it’s also a really, really hard day.

It’s the day that reminds me of all my littles that no longer have their Mommy’s. Of the Mom’s that are missing their babies because of circumstances and bad decisions that you and I could never truly understand. 

It’s a day of tears, broken hearts and memories that fade a little bit more each day.  It’s little faces looking at pictures of the Mama they so desperately love but will never get to see again.

It’s trying to figure out who to give that amazing Mother’s Day gift that was made at school to. Save it for Mom, just in case? Give it to Grandma at an upcoming visit? Or give it to Auntie or Foster Mom that takes care of them now? It’s such a simple thing but the pain & confusion it causes is very deep and very real.

It’s the day when I remember the 30+ faces that have called me Auntie or April or Mom. And the milestones that I’ve shared with children that I did not birth. It’s the first’s and the victories that Mamas long for and then celebrate when they finally arrive. It’s looking into the eyes of children and knowing that their hearts are longing for another time, another place and another face. It’s being okay with being Mom for now. It is joy and pain wrapped up in one Sunday. 

It is the day that reminds me of why I do what I do. Mothers Day is my ‘why’. 

Every kid, everywhere, needs a Mama. They need THEIR Mama but when that’s not possible, we need to step up and fill that space. We can’t all be foster parents, I get that. But we most certainly can take a moment and love someone that so desperately needs it.

This Mother’s Day, be that safe place for someone in your world.

Your Mom would love that. 


Happy Birthday Joy

Today was my birthday and I had a great day.

But tonight, my joy showed up in birthday cards from the Wiener 6. Some were funny. Some were dumb and some were sweet. They were filled with drawings of everything from flowers and rainbows to poop emoji’s.


As always though, my favourite cards are the ones that are filled with spelling mistakes and words that I’ve never heard spoken before. Words that show me that a connection is happening, and that progress is being made. Words that remind me that though they may not be mine … they still are.

Spelling Mistakes. Moments. And Joy.

Happy Birthday to Me.



Who knew shorts were Joyful?

As we’ve entered another season, with new kids, it means I need to buy a whole new seasonal wardrobe. Well, today was new shorts day. And what a day it was. 

When I handed one of the littles his new shorts, he smiled the biggest smile & whispered thanks. I sent him off to his room to try them on with instructions to come show me. 5 minutes later, he came running out and asked if I really wanted to see the shorts. He said, ‘you really want to see how good I look’ and when I said yeah, you’re cute – the smile grew even more.

After 15 minutes, the fashion show finally started.  By the 3rd pair, he couldn’t contain his joy anymore and the tears started flowing down his little cheeks. He was literally standing in front of me twirling and crying. Over shorts.

Today’s joy is my reminder that I am making a difference in some little lives and how easy it is to take things for granted. 

Basic necessities of life should not bring that much joy. But they did.

New shorts = Joy. Who knew? 

Joy in Galactic Funk

Are words even really needed? 

Hello, Star Wars the Galactic Funk record. Can you even imagine how great this music even is?

Now to buy a turntable.

Share your joy peeps…what made you smile today?

Daily Joy with a Bestie

It’s no secret that I’m a little bit obsessed with forming the best bestie group ever, and no I’m not a stalker. Rebel Wilson, Melissa McCarthy and Candace Payne still haven’t followed me on Twitter, but I know they feel my love and will one day, make our Quartet of Awesomeness a reality. And again, No, I am not a stalker.

My daily joy came about today while I was doing some online shopping. I’m too dizzy to really stand or drive still, so I’ve had to start shopping from my couch. AND with my US post office box, oh man, my options are unlimited. There are a world of stores for this Canadian girl to explore and conquer. Maybe that’s actually Joy One.

Anyways, I digress…I bought this shirt today. It’s from my bestie Rebel’s clothing line and it’s pretty much the greatest thing ever.



Chubby Girl Hilarious Bestie Gang now has shirts.

What Joyfulness filled your heart today???

Joy in a Smile

Health wise, this day has been beyond craptastic. But today, I witnessed pure joy in the smile of a little and it was awesome.

My little ‘sister’ is graduating from Grade Nine today and it’s the first time that she’s really had to get dolled up for anything. And this afternoon, in my dining room, I got to watch her transformation unfold. 

Over the last week, I’ve taken her for her first set of gel nails and her first spray tan. And today, she experienced her very first beauty makeover. Fake eyelashes and all.

To say that she was over the moon excited about the whole experience, would be a massive understatement.  But when she looked into the mirror to see the final look, it wasn’t excitement that filled her eyes, it was joy, pure joy.

It was a joy that said, I am beautiful. I am confident. I am proud. 

It was an absolute honor to witness her week of firsts and to see her smile at what she saw in the mirror.

Happy Friday Friends. What was your joyful moment today?

A Daily Taste of JOY

Pretty much everyone in the world has heard of Candace Payne and has heard her laugh more times than you can probably even count. You’ve all seen her video, and hopefully all of the follow-up videos and stories that show all the blessings that are coming her way. Just for being HER.

Candace became a little ray of sunshine in a world that, lately, seems to be filled with more darkness and despair. (According to the news anyways). That funny mask, the little snort and the un-containable joy reminded us that joy really is in the simple things. We just need to open our eyes and find them.

I for one fell in love with the Happy Chewbacca. Not because I love Star Wars & laughing & dumb videos, but because I witnessed joy in it’s purest form. It was contagious and it ignited a fire deep within my soul. Anyone that knows me, knows that I’m a pretty happy person, that I love Jesus, that I love laughing and that I, more than anything else in the world, want people to feel loved and accepted. No matter where they’re at, or what they look like, or how bad they’re feeling inside – I want them to have the same joy that Candace felt when she put on that goofy mask.

So – in response to my new best friend Candace’s story,  (Yes, I’ve decided we’re meant to be besties. Along with Melissa McCarthy & Rebel Wilson. Because seriously, how stinking awesome would that be? Chubby, happy and hilarious – we will be epic.) I’m starting my own happy story.

For the next 30 days, I’m going to share a little piece of joy that I’ve found in my world that day. It may be big, it may be tiny, but it will be something that made me stop and appreciate exactly where I was at, at that second.

Hopefully, it will remind you to find the moments in your life that take all the darkness away and just help you feel happiness.

Please feel free to share your joys with all of us as well because frankly, there can never be too much of a joyful thing.

My Daily Joy ….. 

I’ll be the first person to admit that this “joy” will seem pretty lame-o but at 7:00 am, it filled my heart with so much joy that I almost couldn’t contain myself. I went to make school lunches for the 6 and realized that we had no bread. I stood there for a few seconds trying to figure out what random pantry items I could throw in a bag and call lunch, when I remembered. Quiznos4lunch. I went online, ordered them lunch for delivery and then sat myself down on the couch to eat my cup of ice while the little’s ate cereal.

It’s the simple joys people, simple joys.